Amanda stared
at the tall, lengthy silhouette of her neighbor, Mr. Condit, as he pulled up his
pants and slowly buckled his belt.
Suddenly, he invaded the silence by calling her name seductively, “Amanda.” She reluctantly looked around at
him and saw him waving the $10 bill he had in his hand. He quietly placed it on
the table next to him. This was the routine every time she would come over to
his house to get money for school.
Amanda grew
up in a household with 7 siblings and a single mother who tried her best to
meet the family’s needs, but they were always in need. So, one day, Amanda
approached her neighbor, Mr. Condit to ask for monetary help. Mr. Condit was
always nice to her. He would wave from his backyard and smile at her. She felt
safe with him until Mr. Condit told her one day, “You are going to have to give back something in exchange for my money,
Amanda.”
“I don’t understand,” Amanda said quite innocently. “Come over to my house after school and I
will show you,” he said with a mischievous smile.
Amanda soon found out that Mr. Condit was not
the man that she thought he was. He took advantage of her innocence and as she
now grabbed her underwear and slipper, running out of the house was easy
compared to the memories that would not escape her.
Most of the child
abuse incidences are rarely reported. In Amanda’s case, Mr. Condit told her
that if she told anyone, he would hurt her entire family. Amanda is not alone. Many
children are fearful of their perpetrator, which is usually someone they know. Even
when some of the parents (usually single mothers) know, they won’t say
anything. In Amanda’s case, her mother had a notion of what was going on, but
she knew that Mr. Condit was providing money that she couldn't, so she let it
be.
This is not
OK. Kids, like Amanda, who are being abused by adults that they once trusted,
can be emotionally and psychologically damaged for life. I can attest to this
because I am a survivor. Lucky for me, I found a way to channel my frustration
by writing books on the topic. You can find some of my books on Amazon here. I
have an innate passion for this subject because kids feel that they don’t have
a voice and the idea that they can be violated in such a horrific way is not
something that they can wrap their minds around.
No child can
be prepared psychologically to cope with sexual stimulation; whether it is one
time or repeatedly. Even smaller children (2 or 3 year old) who don’t know anything
about sex will have issues later as a result of being violated. If the abuser
is a relative, friend, neighbor or associate, it is even more difficult for the
child since this is a person who the child may greatly admire. A child like
this may want to please the perpetrator for fear of being unloved or hurt if he
or she tells someone.
How do we
break the silence? I did by writing my books, but what can you do? Don’t turn a
blind eye. Look at this as a lifetime problem for a child and for society at
large. I challenge you to buy my book, which is a similar story to mine. What
this will do is to educate you on the effects of sexual abuse on a child. It
will also give you an opportunity to introduce the book to someone who may have
been sexually abused or a parent who may have a child in such a situation. In addition,
proceeds of the book will go to a related charity. So buying the book today
will lend a voice to this devastating issue that most of us don’t want to talk
about and subsequently keeping it hush-hush!
Buy THE
MAN IN THE SHADOWS right now and make a difference in a child’s or
parent’s life!